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4 Ways To Find The One!

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Finding time for dating is as essential to your life as you want it to be. If you want to share your life with the right person you have to first meet them. Then the question lingers, "How do I find this person?" 

The easiest, most practical way of course is with deliberate and concise thinking just before laying down to sleep.  The intention is that they'll appear after a really good dream of the perfect person and like magic...waalah! They are fixing you breakfast right there in your kitchen in their birthday suit but then you awake only to find an empty kitchen.  You have realized it may take a little extra work than dynamic dreams to find the one for you.   Like with anything you want, you need to put in time and effort to find someone until your dream is cultivated into reality. 

Most importantly you have to want it and be open.  Let's explore some simple ways of finding the right person for you.

1. Your Friends and Family 

Who know's you better than your friends and family?  Who have you trusted over the years and would want to see you happy?  Ask them casually, “hey do you know of anyone who you think may be a match for me?”. They may have forgotten about their single attractive neighbor, or a colleague who’s also in the same boat.  Asking won't hurt, and your loved ones will jump at the opportunity to help you. 

2. The Infamous Online Dating Scene

Contrary to popular belief, the online dating scene is no longer a shameful secret.  People date online! The number one reason I hear why people do not register to online dating sites is that it's too impersonal and that they don't know the people with whom their meeting.  No matter how you meet a stranger, if it's through a friend, at the grocery store or at a bar, they are a stranger until they no longer are. 

Online dating is a very legitimate, though time consuming way of finding someone.   You should be alert and smart, no less than you’d be if you met them organically as people say.  It takes patience and absolute dedication to find someone on these online dating sites, and then there are times where my friends have found their spouses by being online for only a week or two.  So when it's meant to be, it'll be,

3. Get Out!

The only way to meet new people is to GET OUT!  Try a Salsa Dancing Class,  go out to a local bar and chit chat with the person next to you, join a book club, or volunteer.   You may not meet the person your met to be with right then and there but you'll learn a better way of adaptation, and if you continue going out on your own, you'll be a dating magnet in no time! 

I understand those who may have anxiety about going out on their own. It will certainly take an act of faith and bravery but persistence will prevail.  I have faith in you! 

4. Personal Matchmaker 

Hiring a professional matchmaker is perfect, especially when you are too busy for online dating and when no other conventional method has worked thus far. A personal matchmaker looks for someone who is best suited for you, therefore supplying you with qualified dates. 

The best way to find a great matchmaker is by meeting with them in person, asking them pertinent questions, reviewing their company's contract thoroughly, and getting a clear grasp of what they will be doing for you and what you will be gaining as a result of paying for their services and for how long.  Look for great reviews and also take heed and meet with multiple matchmakers and compare their services.

Needless to say we know of an awesome Matchmaking company dedicated to their clients success of finding "The One."  Check us out here fatebydesign.com

Best of luck to you and your dating endeavors! 

 

 

 

TOP 5 THINGS MEN SUCK AT IN ONLINE DATING

TOP 5 THINGS MEN SUCK AT IN ONLINE DATING

 

#1.   shirts are highly encouraged!

Although women find a man's physique with nicely sculpted abs lovely to glance at.  There is usually a reason for it,  and in the online case, it's the obscene reason when a strange man has taken a selfie of himself awkwardly glaring in a mirror, bare chest staring back proudly as it may,  a woman's first thought destined to come to mind, even after an appreciative grin is “Tool”.    

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I know this may come as a surprise to some. But we humans don't typically meet each other bare-chested.  Online dating is already unfamiliar and awkward, why enhance that awkwardness?

 

#2. lazy Profile 

So... get this you are a good looking guy,  even if it's an awkward good looking, you enjoy attending Football games or binge-watching Netflix, your friends find you remotely funny or maybe they find you weird, you love the game chess, and on Saturday’s you volunteer or perhaps you spend your weekends doing nothing.  Whatever it is, let your profile speak to who you are and to a potential date. It's important that you paint a picture,   it doesn’t have to be long-winded(actually we'd very much prefer it never be long winded) but it should be informative,  confident and charismatic.

Women are not the visual creatures to the extent men are, more than “Ask Me” written on your profile, which will surely bore a woman to tears, and have her quickly swipe left.  Just think of the endless back and forth emails:( Even if you're a drop-dead gorgeous man, "the one" could be passing you by.  A well-written profile will allow for a woman to ask questions based on its content.  This will gauge whether there is an interest or any commonalities.  To make it easier remove your ego from the game, and get in the game! 

 

#3. no one-liners. get to the point.

Hey. Hi. What’s Up?  Sexy.... How u doin'? How’s your day going?

If you want a woman’s attention and a reply,  show her that you read her profile and that you have a genuine interest in getting to know her.  

Hello, my name is Ron and I enjoyed reading your profile. I see your favorite season is Winter because you enjoy the crisp air. Do you also enjoy skiing? I’ve been wanting to learn for years now, maybe we could learn together? I'd be honored if you read my profile. If after reading it, you find yourself interested please message me back. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Keep it simple, quirky, a little corny is fine. The art of romance is slowly dying; however, women still love for a man to take control. Hi, how's your day going? And the back and forth that is likely to proceed can be very time-consuming and mindless.   Spark the interest, wait for the reply, if it's good, ask her out for coffee.  If it's not good,  humbly write it off as a loss and find your next catch! 

#4.  who's that lady in your photo?

You look great in that photo, but who's that woman you have your arm wrapped around? Is she your ex-girlfriend that you're clearly not over, or perhaps your current!? Geesh...  When it comes to profile pics, even if it's with your sister, a friend, or a cousin the best profile photos are up close and SOLO.  Why leave it to chance and be swiped left?  

#5. be a gentleman

Women like gracious, humble, and sane men. Don't go all Ike Turner on an email if a woman doesn't respond to you at all or in the way you expected. Also unless you are on a site that promotes sexual encounters it's highly inappropriate to make sexual innuendos to women online.  

Men I hope after reading this you have been able to make some adjustments and if you found yourself reading this thinking you've been doing it right this whole time, congratulations you are well on your way to finding the one!